The winter 2011 edition of Leadership Journal printed an interesting article on page 11, entitled “Pastor Blames Facebook For Divorce”.
Hmm, that’s funny. I thought divorce existed before Facebook?? OK, so i know the intended meaning was Facebook is causing additional divorces, but i don’t buy it. Divorce is a problem of the heart, not a technology problem. People get divorced because one or both spouse succumb to selfish desire. There are no exceptions.
We always look for something else to blame, but the simple truth is there’s nothing else to blame. This hasn’t changed in thousands of years (Matthew 19:):
It’s not Facebook’s fault or the computers fault (because we can access temptations), it’s our fault for being selfish and/or lacking self discipline. The answer is not prohibition but self discipline. We do not live in a world without temptation, no matter how hard we try we will always experience temptations. Jesus didn’t avoid temptation (he was regularly found at parties –, he simply didn’t succumb to it. In the dessert He didn’t run from Satan, we see Jesus conversing with Satan and Jesus persists in what is right.
We will face temptation, we always have the choice to do what is right. If we fail, lets call it what it is – weakness, selfishness, sin (even though that word is taboo) instead of trying to blame it on something or someone else. The senseless abolition of things that are not inherently good or bad to placate those with no selflessness or self control is ridiculous. If you can’t withstand the temptation of Facebook then stay off it, but don’t ban it for everyone!
Rev. Cedrick Miller would have been much better served to teach his congregation about following Christ, self control and persisting against temptation instead of burning the witch at the stake and banning the distilleries. Have we learned nothing form history?